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Panic Attacks and Breathing

week from today is Thanksgiving and we are counting down to the holidays. For many holidays are about joy and giving, however it does seem to come with a cost. That’s right, stress and anxiety. Whether it is low income, relatives, friends or time management, stress and anxiety plays a big role in holidays. It […]

When Ego Get’s in the Way

I once knew a person who did wonderful good deeds for people and called it spirituality. At first, I thought they did it because they were love and light and walking a spiritual path. I began to realize that they bragged about their good deeds. I must have heard over a dozen times in a […]

How to Emotionally Improve Your Health

Did you know that anger and resentment can cause autoimmune diseases, high-blood pressure, skin problems, bowel diseases, chronic infections, and diabetes? According to new evidence, how you emotionally feel has a profound effect on your health. Basically, research concludes that if there is an issue it is in the tissue. There are ways to balance […]

Losing A Friend to Suicide—Good Bye Angela

I run a non-profit Survivors of Suicide Tucson. We work with people who lost someone to suicide. It is never easy to lose someone we love to suicide. The call came last night when an old friend called and gave me the news that my friend Angela had taken her own life. At first I […]

Optimism and Health

Is the glass half full or half empty? When you look at it in all reality the glass is always full because the air counts as substance. Still so many people see the glass half empty. Truth is, optimistic people are generally healthier, happier people and live longer. They tend to believe in good rather […]

When One Door Closes Many Others Open

When one door closes another pone opens. How often have you heard this saying? Probably too many times. Some people agree with this theory while others think it is just a positive saying. So what does this phrase mean really? Should we take it literally? I have clients that have doors shut all the time. […]

Positive Emotional Health

Today let’s look at positive emotional health. People with good emotional health are in control of their thoughts, feelings and behaviors. They feel good about themselves and have good relationships. They can keep problems in perspective. Emotional health, then, is not about feeling good all the time but is about respecting your emotions – all […]

Are You Walking Your Talk?

The universe shows us things that we need to see whether we are ready for it or not. In the past several months the universe has been showing me a series of people who do not walk their talk. People who say they are all about love, light and joy, compassion and understand, yet in […]

Laugh in Peace

I always say walk in peace, but laughter creates peace as well. That is because humor heals. Study after study after study shows that laughter heals pain, relieves stress, helps with depression and builds the immune system. So why are people not using laughter more? I know I have been writing more and more about […]

People Who Live in Glass House—Should Come Into the Real World

I have been trying to figure out what the phrase that says people who live in glass houses should not throw stones really means. I think in all reality it means quite a few things.  I have had so many opportunities to see this in action at times. One of the first things I think […]

Trust the Process

I am a huge believer in trusting the process. It is never good or bad, it is just a process. I don’t worry too much about the outcome because I spend too much time trusting the process. Now this is not to say I don’t balk at times during the process, but it doesn’t mean […]


I probably post a great deal about gratitude, but without it, what would life be? Having gratitude creates a successful and fulfilling life. Gratitude unlocks the soul of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. If you want your flood gates to open, you need to have gratitude. It is impossible to […]

Disassemble the Fear

This past week spirit has been providing me with wonderful examples of people who walk in fear. The mother afraid to tell her child what she really thinks, the husband afraid to talk to his wife, a friend afraid to talk, a middle aged woman afraid of the people she works with. Why are people […]

Laughter is the Best Holistic Medicine

Have you ever met someone who takes themselves so serious that they hardly smile or laugh? I have and there is a part of me that feels sorry for people who take themselves so serious that they forget the best medicine in the world, laughter. Laughter is contagious. One person starts in, and the next […]

Staying in the Present With the Anniversary of 911

I cannot help but notice for the past week I have been seeing so much footage and pictures on the 911 attacks. Yes, we are getting ready to honor the 10th anniversary of this tragic day, however, to have the media shows us over and over again the attacks, the fires, the screaming, does not […]

What’s in Your Belief System

I kept thinking of the commercial, “what’s in your wallet” and thought of what’s in your belief system? So what is in your belief system? Does your belief forbid you to to get recovery or help or does your belief system promote health and healing? Does your belief system offer compassion and love on your […]

Unconditional Love

Yesterday on facebook I sent a post that had a link to a wonderful non-profit that helps people cope and deal with leaving a certain religion. I sent this as some of my facebook friends are either counselors who treat people who have left this religion, or they themselves have left the religion. Recovery from […]

Antidepressants or Natural Cures for Depression

Medical news for depressed people on depression medications can be depressing. Why is that? Because antidepressants don’t work like we thought they did. What’s even more depressing is that the pharmaceutical industry and Food and Drug Administration (FDA) have deliberately deceived us into believing that they DO work. I always was aware on some level […]

Developing Teen Positive Self-Esteem PT 2

Honoring yourself and who you really are is your birthright. So many teens “young adult teens” are so stuck on being adults and demanding they be treated as 40 year-olds, they fail to recognize that they may need to be treated older than they really are because of poor self-esteem. Much like my cousin who […]

Self-Esteem and Teens Self-Confidence Part 1

My cousin just turned 18 and he will let you, and the entire world  know that he is an adult. Problem is, when we have to tell everyone we are an adult, it means it is because we are not displaying adult like behaviors. So what is that about? Young adults who have to prove […]

Intention of Honoring and Loving Self

“You can only receive from others the same amount of love and respect you give yourself.” You are a work in progress, so indulge in lifetime learning. Don’t allow anyone especially you, the right to make you feel inadequate! So what is self love? First let’s look at what self love isn’t. You deserve love, […]

Setting Boundaries

I cannot tell you how many times I use the words setting boundaries” in a day. These are so important, yet we refuse to set and implement them. Setting boundaries are vital to learning to honor yourself A boundary is a system of setting limits that enhances a person’s ability to have a sense of […]

How To Cultivate Compassion

I have a relative who has no compassion. I mean none, zero, nadda. It is interesting to have contact with someone who does not have compassion. There is something about their eyes. It is if their soul is misfiring. Perhaps with my relative, her soul is misfiring, perhaps she never learned compassion. So it leads […]

Self Improvement Through Motivation

In order to be happy and satisfied, one needs to be motivated. Motivation basically gives us the hope to look ahead and dream higher. It is the force that propels us to go ahead. But why do we need to change? People change for various reasons. Some change because they don’t want to face the […]

Accountability a Spiritual Path

Have you ever invited people for dinner and they are chronically late. Everyone has to wait for them each and every time? Have you ever set things up with people but you are afraid they won’t follow through and you have to recheck each and every time? I had a friend like this. Always late […]

Personal Mission Statement

Who are you and what do you want? The best way to figure out who you are is to write your own personal mission statement. By doing this you get an opportunity to look at your life, figure out what you aspire to do, it gives you value and purpose. Let’s start by closing your […]

How to Stay Out of Your Head

I get asked this all the time; “How do I stay out of my head?” Cultivating a way to get beyond what your head is telling you and trying to find more peaceful can be difficult. That is because the solution is so simple. Stay focused on the now! When we begin to enter our […]

Force Medication?

I have had so many people asking me what I thought about Jared Loughner, I thought it would make a good blog for today. I had to think long and hard on this. The shooting in Tucson on that day affected me as I had met and talked with Gabby several times and I knew […]

Grief Should Not Be Medicated!

  Not only do I do holistic mental health and healing, I am the director and board president of Survivors of Suicide. It is a grief group that focuses on the grief that people experience when they have lost a loved one to suicide. There is something very wrong in our society I have learned […]

Taking Responsibility

I recently told my parents I would not take them out in public because my father calls people of different races names. He calls Hispanics wetbacks or beaners and calls Italians dagos and wops. Recently he did it at my favorite restaurant and deeply embarrassed me. My mother stated that I had to accept my […]

Natural Dopamine

Dopamine is a neurotransmitter that helps control the brain’s reward and pleasure centers. It helps regulate movement and emotional responses. Dopamine is a neurotransmitter that is naturally produced in the body and regulate movement, emotion, motivation and the feeling of pleasure. Dopamine stabilizes the brain activity, regulated flow of information to other parts of the […]

Medical Condition Not Depression

  Most doctors who treat patients suffering from depression use conventional medicines to treat the symptoms which we now know only work about 50% of the time. In today’s world and modern medicine, doctors are quick to diagnose depression, and then medicate. The use of pharmaceuticals to address depressions and to stabilize moods can lead […]

To Deal Take a Pill To Heal Seek Alternative Therapies

Want to deal with your depression? Good then take a pill. What to heal your depression? Then take an alternative approach. A 2002 study analyzed FDA data on the 6 most widely prescribed antidepressants. It found that placebos had about 80% as much effect as the drugs themselves, suggesting that “the pharmacological effects of antidepressants […]

Letting Go

My father is older and sick and my mother is his primary care taker. She cleans, cooks, shops, dresses him, she does everything and I have noticed how worn and tired she is, and she has complained on occasions. I called my brother who lives 2 hours away to come into town once in a […]

Acupuncture and Holistic Counseling Together?

There are times when we may need some sort of counseling or life coaching. It can help people understand their feelings as well as accepting their strong and weak points. If people can identify their feelings and ways of thinking they become better at coping with difficult situations. Holistic counseling is an alternative form of […]

Pat Yourself on the Back for Believing In You!

Recently someone was telling me how upset they were that the people who befriended them, suddenly have been ignoring them. “We were good friends” she said, “I did nothing wrong.” She was so sad. “We got together all the time and laughed and had fun.” We explored any possible problems and discovered that  her friends […]

Self Love and Relationships

Loving yourself. What a concept. So many people say they love themselves yet they are in poor relationships. People often do not give a considerable amount of thought or even time to self-love because they are too busy avoiding it. It is important to remember that we experience love on so many different levels.  We […]

Embrace Your Flaws

When I was fresh out of grad school, I had a clinical supervisor that had to supervise our counseling hours. She was a very spiritual woman and she gave me the best advice, she said “If you think you know everything, than you know nothing.” Recently I have been bumping into people who claim they […]

Insurance for Mental Health Care Labels You

If your health insurance plan provides full or partial reimbursement of your fees for psychotherapy, you would probably like to take advantage of this benefit. However, it’s important to know what you’re getting as well as what you’re giving up in exchange for the privilege of being reimbursed. You may decide that it’s not worth […]

Good or Fad Diets for Mental Health

You are what you eat. We all know that a bad diet leads to obesity but did you know it leads to a variety of mental health issues. Low self-esteem, depression, anxiety, A person’s food intake affects mood, behavior, and brain function.  It seems for many people, we have a hard time understanding that some […]

Omega-3 Fatty Acid and Mental Health

Fish oil is a good source of omega-3 fatty acids, which play an important role in brain function. People with depression may have low blood levels of brain chemicals called eicosapentaenoic acid (EPA) and docosahexaenoic acid (DHA). These chemicals are found in fish oil. The best dose of fish oil isn’t clear, but it appears […]

Acupuncture for Pain Management

Yesterday we talked about acupuncture for mental health issues such as depression, anxiety, insomnia and a host of other issues. Today I want to focus on pain. In the United States, over 50 million people suffer from chronic pain. The annual cost of chronic pain is around 00 billion. Moreover, 46% of the people suffering […]

Acupuncture For Mental Health

Depression is a mood disorder characterized by feelings of sadness, despair, apathy, frustration, tiredness, anxiousness, lack of appetite, and other symptoms that are uncomfortable. Holistic mental health Traditional Chinese doctors have treated the symptoms of depression effectively for many centuries by going to the root of the problem. Acupuncture can be a wonderful adjunct to […]

Help For Parents Coping with Young Adults

If I had a nickel for every time I have heard a parent say my child is 18 or is going to turn 18 and then begin to complain about their behavior, well I would more than likely be a rich woman. So today let’s work on keeping things simple by clarifying a few simple […]

Walk Your Talk

I once met a woman who said she had read almost every top selling self help book there was. She read all the spiritual books, and she had a great library. Problem was she knew how to read, but she did not know how to apply what she read. She could talk up a storm […]


Why are people so unhappy? The world changing and is unpredictable. So many people are saying they are unhappy but what is that about. Let’s face it. People say they have cars, homes, nice things, good family great friends, they have it all so why are they not happy? I believe it is simple we […]

Understanding Holistic Health and Mental Health

It is important in today’s confusing world of medicine and mental health that we understand what holism and healing mean. Holistic health is both alternative and traditional, it is either or, not black and white. It encompasses not only the physical component, but the spiritual, emotional, environmental and mental aspects as well.  It is a […]

Dealing With Aging Parents Part 2

Yesterday we looked at how to take care of ourselves if we have become caretakers, and how to cope and deal with family members who do not want to offer help. We found letting go of resentment works well, and to take care of ourselves. What happens though when you want to care for your […]

Dealing With Aging Parents Part 1

A few months ago my father took ill and life has never been the same for concerned family members. As your parents grow older, you may find their health beginning to reflect their age. Reflexes slow down, mobility decreases and forgetfulness can become more apparent, they may fall a great deal and you get the […]

HCG Another Starvation Diet

Thousands and thousands of people are losing weight and losing it fast with HCG, the all natural weight loss plan. This product promises rapid weight loss even up to 30 pounds a month and the truth is it actually delivers. I have been getting questions if HCG is good for you and should people be […]

Taking Responsibility

How do we become better people; the kind of people that others can trust and respect? The key is quite simple, trying taking responsibility for your actions. We live in a world of blame and shame. We blame and find ways not to take personal responsibility for many of our actions. Truth is, your decisions […]

Honesty with integrity

Honesty means the act of being honest to something or somebody. It means to say the truth and abiding and supporting your morals and ethics. It means to be free of any malpractices. It means to treat others with humanism. Honesty is a central topic in human relationships. We all want to be told the […]

When Honesty Causes Harm

  Let’s face it; most of us want to walk a higher path. We believe in honesty and living life to its fullest, but, what happens when your desire to be honest can cause damage, and you are fully aware of damages it can cause? According to the Buddhist philosophy the main source of conflict […]


Loneliness has no single common cause, so the preventions and treatments for this damaging state of mind vary dramatically. While common definitions of loneliness describe it as a state of solitude or being alone, loneliness is actually a state of mind. Loneliness causes people to feel empty, alone and unwanted. People who are lonely often […]

Relationships and Trust

What is it with trust and relationships these days? I seems like people are not allowed to have other friends if they are in a marriage or relationship. I see it all the time. A woman can’t go out with her friends a man cannot go out with a woman they once used to hang […]

What is a Holistic Life Coach??

So many people do not understand what holistic life coaching is and think it is primarily just for business but that could not be further from the truth. Holistic life coaching is for people who a ready for change in their life with the mind body spirit approach and the benefits can be enormous. Life […]

What is A Holistic Life Coach Part 2

How does Holistic Life Coaching differ from Counseling? Both Counselors and Coaches listen, ask questions, raise awareness and move clients forward. However, counseling and therapy is more about treating a present problem or number of issues by looking into the past. Counseling and therapy more than likely will include psychiatry and diagnosis, neither of which […]

What is a Holistic Life Coach Part 1

Are you frustrated with an aspect of your life and unsure how to stop making the same choices you keep making or just want to have more happiness, peace of mind and passion? Well that is what life coaching is all about. Holistic life coaching looks at all aspects of YOU the mind-the body-the spirit […]

Drugging America: The Drug Industry Exposed

There is now a small mountain of studies that show antidepressant drugs are largely ineffective. But more than that, they can ruin lives by creating chronic dependency and a grinding ­hopelessness that sometimes leads to self-neglect and death. Dr. Ronald Dworkin tells the story of a woman who didn’t like the way her husband was […]

Minding Mindfulness

  Mindfulness is the practice of becoming more fully aware of the present moment–non-judgmentally and completely–rather than dwelling in the past or projecting into the future. Studies have proven that it can help with anxiety disorders, including generalized anxiety disorder (GAD), depression, relationship Issues, sleep problems, eating disorders, stress management, chronic pain, recovering more quickly […]

Taking Responsibility Part 2

Yesterday we talked about taking personal responsibility for our actions and behaviors. We discussed how to accept personal responsibility and a list of the excuses we tend to use. Today we talk about what we need in order to be responsible and walk a higher ground. What behavior traits need to be developed in order […]

Taking Responsibility Part 1

One of the single most important words in the English language is responsibility. Most of the problems we experience in life are because we fail to take responsibility. Look at your own life. Be honest with yourself. What problems can you identify that point back to your not taking responsibility either in a timely fashion […]

Iodine Foods

With the devastating earthquake and Tsunami in Japan, and the possibility of a melt down, Americans are stressing. They are walking in fear and vitamin stores throughout our nation have completely sold out of iodine. Geiger Counters, radiation detectors are making a huge comeback on the internet and people are getting rich off of our […]

Talking About Holistic Mental Health? What Should I say?

I’m getting ready to head to New Mexico this week to speak at a convention for a few days and I was thinking, what do I want to talk about when it comes time to holistic mental health? I could spend at least an hour on the benefits of mindfulness and depression and anxiety and […]

Mindfulness Part 2

Yesterday we talked about mindfulness and how important it can be for us. The problem is, many people do not understand how they can attain mindfulness. If you say “just be in the moment” they think you are spouting off some new age guru, so how can you achieve mindfulness? Of course the first thing […]

Mindfulness Part 1

We hear it all the time to practice mindfulness but what is it? Well mindfulness involves paying attention “on purpose”. Mindfulness involves a conscious direction of our awareness. I call it the art of paying attention. I don’t know about you but for many left to itself the mind wanders through all kinds of thoughts […]

Mind Body Spirit Interventions Part 1

Mind-Body-Spirit Interventions use a variety of techniques designed to enhance the mind’s capacity to affect bodily function and symptoms. Some of these are techniques that were once considered to be complementary or alternative medicine, but have now become main-stream in the treatment of mental health. Mind-body-spirit (MBS) therapies are regarded as an essential approach that […]

Getting Sober From Addictions

The news is filled with Charlie Sheen and his problems with addictions. They keep putting him in rehab, but to no avail Mr. Sheen cannot stay sober. Why is that? Could it be when it comes to alcohol or drug recovery, the number one recommended program is Alcoholics Anonymous and 93% of ALL treatment programs […]

The Placebo Effect

Typically placebos are regarded as dummy drugs and they are pharmacologically inert but may trick patient and doctor into thinking they are the real thing. By definition, placebos are regarded as a less desirable thing. An alternative view would be that placebos often do work as effectively as anything else does and sometimes very powerfully, […]

The Nature of Illness

People tend to talk about their illness rather than the importance of good health. Many people talk about all their medications, all their illnesses and rarely do people focus on good health. It is difficult to when 1/3 of TV commercials are all on medications. Restless legs, high cholesterol, depression, anxiety, birth control, the list […]

B Vitamins and Stress

Who doesn’t have stress? In this day and age, we are prone to feeling continuous stress. We worry about money, jobs and children, relationships and we have a great deal of fears that turn into stress and eventually stress can wreck havoc on our physical and mental health. B vitamins can help with stress by […]

Understanding Integrative Mental Health

Our current mental health care system is not working, not at all. No one is getting better, just dependant. But not better. No one is saying my anxiety is gone, or I no longer have depression. Maybe that is because only 50% of people respond to medication. They know these facts, yet they still take […]

Food and Mood

There are foods that can help bring our moods up or make us someone that no one wants to be around. We are what we eat. Some of the foods that can make you feel better about you can be something as simple as oatmeal. Did you know that a bowl of oatmeal can help […]

Dealing With Anxiety Correctly

Anxiety disorders affect about 40 million American adults age 18 years and older. Most people turn to medications to treat anxiety and anxiety medication is by far the most popularly prescribed medication for all of the psychiatric disorders. There are several problems with anxiety medications. The benzodiazepines (Xanax, Valium etc) are easily the most commonly […]

Healing Grief

Grief is an emotion. It is a very powerful emotion. In fact, grief is the most intense and enduring emotion we can experience. There is No quick fix. No short-cut. Grief is grief. It is not broken so it cannot be fixed. Grief is an emotion that must be processed. Grief and loss create pain. […]

Understanding EFT

EFT is a meridian energy therapy which resembles acupuncture in a sense that it works directly on the meridian system but rather than using needles, you stimulate the major meridian points by tapping on them and give messages. It is often called energy medicine or energy psychology. That may make people think that it is […]

Life Coaching Versus Counseling Part 2

Yesterday we talked a bit about coaching versus counseling but let’s talk a little more.You see with depression becoming the number one disability by 2020, and people struggling with life and decisions, yet they still struggle with the taboo of mental health counseling, mental health coaching, lie coaching or spiritual coaching is taking on a […]

Coaching versus Counseling Part 1

So many times I get asked what the difference between coaching and counseling is. It is a fairly simple equation really. Counseling = looking back, coaching = looking forward but I believe these two different modalities involve a little bit of both. So there are many differences between counseling and coaching. One of the biggest […]

Crying Soul Tears